Let's talk openly about anxiety
Even if many people suffer from anxiety, we do not talk openly about it.
We learn from a young age that it is wrong to share difficult emotions... so we keep them in and perhaps only allow ourselves to say to someone "I am anxious about this". Admitting to ourselves that we feel anxiety is the first step towards healing because it motivates us to do something about it.
Many of my clients come to their first meeting not knowing why they are so anxious. They have usually lived with anxiety for a long time and have tried many strategies to get rid of it like meditation, techniques to stop anxious thoughts, medications, self-help books, etc. Some strategies seem to work well like avoiding situations that bring up anxiety, but life becomes restricted and dominated by the fear of being anxious.
Starting the healing process
Some clients have consulted with a GP and have a formal diagnosis of panic attacks, OCD, depression, body dysphoria, etc., some others are having inexplicable physical symptoms like lack of sleep or digestive problems. In all cases what helps the most is to talk openly about how anxiety is affecting life. How does it feel to be anxious and what goes on in the head and in the body when anxiety attacks? Clients usually find out that there are a lot of emotions hidden by anxiety: sadness, frustration, anger, dissatisfaction, resignation, etc. By learning how to take care of emotions anxiety naturally goes down.
Life improvements my clients make include the ability to stop or avoid a panic attack, better management of obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviour, increased acceptance of emotions and improvement of relationships at work and in personal life.
Getting help with anxiety
At present, these are the options available to get help with anxiety
- Go to a GP to check if there is any physical condition causing anxiety;
- Go for therapy (either through the NHS, or contacting a therapist privately);
- Get prescribed medications by a GP or a psychiatrist;
- Use self-help tools like meditation, physical exercise, breathing, etc.