I have extensive knowledge and training in how different schools of psychotherapy help clients deal with anxiety and anger-related problems. This knowledge comes academic studies, training, first-hand experience, personal therapy, supervision from psychotherapy lecturers and continuing professional development.

I regularly publish articles on anxiety and anger while I support clients find their way to good mental health in my private practice.


Anxiety

If you are suffering from anxiety, you might be affected by one of the following well-known forms of anxiety disorders

  • Panic Attacks

  • Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD)

  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

  • Obsessive thoughts

  • Chronic worry

  • Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

  • Body image problems

  • Work-related stress

  • Social anxiety

What is in common between all these forms of suffering is that there is a deep sense that "something is not right and something is wrong with me". You might worry a lot about the future, think about the worst-case scenario all the time, have intrusive thoughts and feel pressure to perform certain behaviour or to avoid certain things.

Here are some article I have written on anxiety

  1. Can we really get rid of anxiety?

  2. Why anxiety is real

  3. Would you follow an anxiety and stress-reduction diet?

  4. Anxious self-talk


Anger

Anger is not as well studied and understood as anxiety. While anxiety conditions have names like GAD, OCD, etc. the only references to anger are in extreme cases like antisocial behaviour or oppositional defiant disorder, which probably not many people know about.

Anger is an emotion that we all experience in life and, unfortunately, is not easy to express. Anger can become chronic and unhealthy, which is when clients start considering the idea of coming to therapy to make sense of it. Typical scenarios are

  • Getting very irritated at small things

  • Raising voice in work situations

  • Losing sleep

  • Losing trust in people

  • Hitting (or wanting to hit) parts of one's own body or other objects

  • Getting easily into arguments that escalate quickly

The field of CBT has worked mainly on the idea "anger management" to help people contain their anger and express their point of view with assertiveness. In addition to this, there is a need for understanding the causes of one's own anger and all the other emotions that go with it.

Here are some of my articles on anger

  1. Anger carries a message... do we know what it is?

  2. Acknowledging our difficulties can turn anger and anxiety into self-compassion


Sexual and Gender Diversity

Sexual and Gender identity and expression are at the heart of physical and mental wellbeing. The journey to discover and accept our way of living sexuality and gender is unique to each individual.

Many people consider gender and sexuality to be almost the same thing, and this is sign of a heteronormative society in which we make the following assumptions

  1. that a person with a male body

    • likes to dress up like a man

    • considers themselves a man

    • adheres to the behaviour men have

    • is attracted to women

    • wants to have a monogamous relationship

  2. that a person with a female body

    • likes to dress up like a woman

    • considers themselves a woman

    • adheres to the behaviour women have

    • is attracted to men

    • wants to have a monogamous relationship

Read more on Gender Fluidity

We are classified based on the body we have, and each time we do not tick any of these boxes, we are vulnerable to shame, discrimination, bullying, but also legal prosecution, harm and abuse. These areas are rarely explored by psychotherapy and counselling training and all different brands of psychotherapies (with the exception of Gestalt Psychotherapy) were founded by white heterosexual men. It is crucial that a therapist has extensive training and has developed enough knowledge of how these issues affect mental health.


Neurodiversity

This is new term recently used to indicate people who seem to have a brain that works differently from others. The most common types of neurodiversity include autism, ADHD and dyslexia.

Usually people receive a formal diagnosis during their school years, and very little is known about how these differences in the way the brain works affect human development. Having worked in education for years, I have come to recognise how these neurodiversities can have big negative impact on the life of people, and they can remain undiagnosed until adulthood.

This is particularly true for people who are on the autistic spectrum. I encounter an increasing amount of people coming to see me for an anxiety problem, to find out that their anxiety and their way to live life, feel their feelings and relate to other people is deeply shaped by their diversity. In these cases, traditional psychotherapies that invite people to share their emotions with others might not be appropriate and it is necessary to modify the therapeutic approach to meet the needs of a non-standard neural system.